Keeping It Real When It Starts to Feel Repetitive
Keeping It Real When It Starts to Feel Repetitive
I’ll be honest—keeping the Journaling Blog (where I journal my spankings) going has been harder than I expected.
When I first started writing about my life, about discipline, about the way my husband and I connect through it, everything felt new. Every moment felt worth capturing. I had so many thoughts, so many emotions, and honestly… so many stories.
But lately? I’ve been struggling in logging each spanking.
Not because anything is wrong—but almost the opposite.
Most of my spankings are maintenance spankings. They’re steady, predictable, and honestly… kind of the same week after week. And while that consistency has been incredibly grounding for me in real life, it doesn’t always translate into something fresh or exciting to write about.
Our Fridays tend to follow a familiar rhythm.
He gets home first.
I come in shortly after.
The kids get sent off to their activities.
We sit down and talk about the week—what went well, what didn’t, where I struggled, where I did better.
And then… he spanks me.
It’s simple and our routine is steady.
By the time it’s over, the stress I carried all week is gone. I feel lighter, calmer, reset. And in that sense, it’s everything I could ask for.
But sitting down later and trying to write about it?
That’s where I get stuck.
Because how many ways can you say the same thing?
How many times can I describe that same sequence of events and still make it meaningful—not just for me, but for anyone reading?
I don’t want this blog to feel like I’m just rewriting the same post with slightly different words. I don’t want it to lose its honesty or start to feel forced.
At the same time, I don’t want to stop.
Because even if the structure is repetitive… the experience isn’t, not really.
Some weeks I walk into Friday carrying guilt.
Some weeks it’s stress.
Other weeks it’s just exhaustion.
And even though what we do looks the same from the outside, what’s happening inside me shifts every time.
Maybe that’s what I need to focus on more.
Not just what happens—but how it feels.
What I’m thinking during our conversation.
What I’m holding onto that week.
What I learn afterward.
Maybe the story isn’t in the routine itself… but in the small changes within it.
Or maybe part of this blog is simply being honest about this too—that real life, even in something as intimate and meaningful as this, can become routine. And routine isn’t boring… it’s stable. It’s dependable. It’s what keeps us grounded.
I think I’m learning that not every post has to be dramatic or different to be worth writing.
Sometimes it’s enough to say:
“This is what our life looks like right now. This is what’s working. This is what’s hard. This is where I am.”
And right now?
I’m in a season of sameness… and trying to find the meaning inside it.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Lisa, don’t give up on your blog. People are drawn to it because your writing is honest and heartfelt. Try the suggestions you listed. That might be enlightening for you and help to other women who are on their journey. Lady in Red
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ReplyDeleteLisa, I like that you more or less answered your own question. But what you write doesn't have to be Nobel, Pulitzer, or Short Story Prize. I get “routine” as I was trained on what I need to do, positioning, etc .and you just do it. Not unlike sex, it can become routine unless you mix it up, like date night, romance, role play, surprises, etc. So discipline could be looked at different angles too, ones’s mindset, feeling, (before, during and after,) ..and everything else you mentioned. Also, I think you may be surprised on how many woman would like to be in your shoes and write a onetime blog, how about a relief week for Lisa where one of your wonderful readers writes your blog, you comment/edit as necessary and then open it up to others. As previously mentioned, maybe one week have a girls discussion/forum and post from that. I know I wish I had other girls to speak with on this dynamic. Perhaps one week even provide a sermon, from Lisa’s pulpit. We all could learn a thing or two. So for me, yes, on weekly routine maintenance but I still get into trouble which may appear routine but is different and the spankings hurts a lot more as they should.
Hi Lisa, I for one love reading about your life, how your week has been, what’s on your mind, etc. I love the thoughts you’ve already had about how to approach the maintenance from different perspectives like how you were feeling, how the spanking may affect you differently week to week, and what you’ve learned. I’ve never had maintenance spankings but it seems that despite the expectation and the routine, there must be a purpose to it, whether for training, continued emphasis on submission, or other factors that I can’t even think of. You’re a great writer and I hope that you keep going. Repetitive or routine doesn’t mean it isn’t interesting. Many of us would ask you how your week was or how you’re doing if we were speaking with you. That’s a genuine question and not something we would skip over in checking in on a friend, even though their week may have been predictable and routine. As I think you pointed out, often the beauty (and even the pain) in our lives happens smack dab in the middle of what is otherwise our regular routine, but that doesn’t make the sharing any less interesting to our friends and loved ones.
DeleteThese are all good advice. I still got some write in me. And the fact that I have three blogs I will always try to post in this one at least. Maybe not on my Journaling one if there is no spanking to report on. But this blog is not an account on my spankings. It is more about my thoughts about being in this relationship.
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