Posts

When I Want Him to Notice Something Is Wrong

-
Image
  When I Want Him to Notice Something Is Wrong But Don't Know How to Say It I wrote this article and reading it I would like to apologize to hubby for the way my brain sometimes works. As I read it… it sounded a bit crazy, There are times when something is wrong with me, and I don’t really know how to say it. I’m stressed. I’m exhausted. I’m frustrated. I’m overwhelmed. Sometimes I’m emotional for reasons I can’t completely explain. Sometimes I’m carrying something around in my head that I haven’t figured out how to put into words yet. And I’ll admit something that probably isn’t entirely fair to my husband: Sometimes I want him to just notice. I want him to look at me and somehow know. I want him to notice that my smile isn’t quite the same, that I’m quieter than usual, or that I’ve been carrying too much. I want him to ask the right question and somehow know what kind of answer I need. The funny thing is, Hubby is actually pretty good at this. He knows me well. After all these ye...
Post a Comment
Read more

The Man I can’t Help but Melt For

-
Image
  The Man I can’t Help but Melt For I saw this sign and thought, that is my husband. He had a confidence and calmness around him when we were first dating that was so different than any other young men around at that time. I am so glad I knew him before college and I am sure other women were looking at him. There is something about my husband’s persona that I find incredibly attractive. I have tried to explain it before, but I’m not sure I ever quite find the right words. It isn't simply that he is dominant. It is the way he is dominant. His dominance oozes through nearly every interaction we have, but it is a calm, loving kind of dominance. There is no need for him to announce it. He doesn't have to tell everyone—or even me—that he is the man in charge. Somehow, I just know. And if you know, you know. I love a dominant form of PDA. Not the kind that makes a spectacle of us, but the little things that communicate something between the two of us. Things that other people might b...
3 comments
Read more

How Would Hubby Handle That Today?

-
Image
  How Would Hubby Handle That Today? A comment from "Annee" on one of my posts got me thinking. The post she was responding to was about a rather embarrassing evening early in our relationship when I had a complete meltdown over something as simple as where we were going to eat.  If you haven't read it, you can find the whole story here: Where Do You Want to Eat? Looking back at that evening now, I honestly have to blush a little. I behaved like a little child. What makes me cringe even more is thinking about what my husband put up with that evening before it eventually ended with me being spanked. Annee wrote: “You were both so young! An argument that escalates over something trivial reflects ‘toddler’ dynamics. Might I suggest that now that same situation would be handled by your hubby making scrambled eggs and lovingly sending you to bed?” That made me laugh—and then it made me think. How would hubby handle that today? Wow. What a difference twenty-two years can make! ...
10 comments
Read more

How to contact me

-
Image
  Hey everybody.... I just wanted to let you know if you want to contact me....  EMAIL Email me at mailto:lisa1982jack50n@gmail.com 
2 comments
Read more

The Conversation: The Night Our Journey Began

-
Image
The Conversation: The Night Our Journey Began Sometimes I think the most important moments in our lives don't announce themselves when they happen. There is no music playing in the background. No one tells you, Remember this night. This is where your life changes. Sometimes it is simply a Saturday night, a home-cooked dinner, two college students sitting across from each other, and a conversation that lasts until almost midnight. That was us. We had been dating for about four months in college. Four months doesn't sound like very long now, but at the time, I was completely smitten with him. And I do mean smitten. My first impressions of him were that he was quiet, serious, thoughtful and incredibly self-controlled. He wasn't the kind of guy who needed to be the center of attention. He didn't talk just to fill the silence. When he spoke, I tended to listen because I knew he had actually thought about what he was saying. There was something about that that drew me in. I a...
6 comments
Read more

Women spanking women

-
Image
I wrote an article for "The Pink Side" exploring the idea of being spanked by another woman... Click the photo to read the article  
11 comments
Read more

Spanked in college

-
Image
I posted this article on my blog quite some time ago and I reposted it on " The Pink Side " but it was the discipline that my husband enacted on me before we were married. If you would like to read it click the link below. It also has an amazing feature that allows you to listen to the article. Which is great for driving, kind of like an audio book!  Spanked in College Link
Post a Comment
Read more

The Pink Side

-
Image
So here is the story... Linda introduced me to Caleb's video. After exploring his amazing videos, I discovered that he has a Substack. I started following him he started reading my blog here. He really liked what I wrote and invited  me to write for The Pink Side.  I am really honored and really would love it if you read my article. If you like what I wrote comment on it. Then explore " The Pink Side " Click the picture to View my article and
Post a Comment
Read more

A Moment for Dolly

-
Image
  A Moment for Dolly I know this blog is about domestic discipline, marriage, and the many things that go along with the life Hubby and I share. But today, I want to take a moment to recognize someone who has touched my life—and the lives of so many others—in ways that go far beyond music. Yesterday, I cried all the way home from work. I suppose part of me is still wondering how someone as wonderful as Dolly Parton could leave us. I know she was 80 years old, and I know none of us gets to stay forever, but some people seem so full of life and light that it is hard to imagine the world without them in it. Dolly was one of those people. She left us with so much. Her music, her movies, her humor, and the memories that are attached to all of them. But Dolly was so much more than an entertainer. Her generosity reached people she would never meet. Her support of medical research helped contribute to the development of the Moderna COVID-19 vaccine—something that felt especially personal t...
7 comments
Read more

It's About So Much More Than Spanking

-
Image
  It's About So Much More Than Spanking When people hear the words Domestic Discipline, I think one of the first things that often comes to mind is spanking. I understand why. It is one of the more visible and talked-about parts of our relationship. But the truth is, spanking is actually a very small part of our DD relationship. In fact, I would say that spanking is reserved for maybe 10% of the issues we deal with. That's it. The other 90% is made up of something much more ordinary and, in my opinion, much more meaningful. Conversation: A lot of the time, Hubby and I simply sit down and talk through what happened. He listens to me, I listen to him, and together we work through the situation without it needing to become a disciplinary issue. Communication: We try to be open and honest with each other about our feelings, struggles, expectations, and needs. Good communication helps us address little problems before they become bigger ones and keeps us connected as husband and wi...
25 comments
Read more