Lisa Spanking Blog

  When I Want Him to Notice Something Is Wrong But Don't Know How to Say It I wrote this article and reading it I would like to apologize to hubby for the way my brain sometimes works. As I read it… it sounded a bit crazy, There are times when something is wrong with me, and I don’t really know how to say it. I’m stressed. I’m exhausted. I’m frustrated. I’m overwhelmed. Sometimes I’m emotional for reasons I can’t completely explain. Sometimes I’m carrying something around in my head that I haven’t figured out how to put into words yet. And I’ll admit something that probably isn’t entirely fair to my husband: Sometimes I want him to just notice. I want him to look at me and somehow know. I want him to notice that my smile isn’t quite the same, that I’m quieter than usual, or that I’ve been carrying too much. I want him to ask the right question and somehow know what kind of answer I need. The funny thing is, Hubby is actually pretty good at this. He knows me well. After all these ye...

  The Man I can’t Help but Melt For I saw this sign and thought, that is my husband. He had a confidence and calmness around him when we were first dating that was so different than any other young men around at that time. I am so glad I knew him before college and I am sure other women were looking at him. There is something about my husband’s persona that I find incredibly attractive. I have tried to explain it before, but I’m not sure I ever quite find the right words. It isn't simply that he is dominant. It is the way he is dominant. His dominance oozes through nearly every interaction we have, but it is a calm, loving kind of dominance. There is no need for him to announce it. He doesn't have to tell everyone—or even me—that he is the man in charge. Somehow, I just know. And if you know, you know. I love a dominant form of PDA. Not the kind that makes a spectacle of us, but the little things that communicate something between the two of us. Things that other people might b...

  How Would Hubby Handle That Today? A comment from "Annee" on one of my posts got me thinking. The post she was responding to was about a rather embarrassing evening early in our relationship when I had a complete meltdown over something as simple as where we were going to eat.  If you haven't read it, you can find the whole story here: Where Do You Want to Eat? Looking back at that evening now, I honestly have to blush a little. I behaved like a little child. What makes me cringe even more is thinking about what my husband put up with that evening before it eventually ended with me being spanked. Annee wrote: “You were both so young! An argument that escalates over something trivial reflects ‘toddler’ dynamics. Might I suggest that now that same situation would be handled by your hubby making scrambled eggs and lovingly sending you to bed?” That made me laugh—and then it made me think. How would hubby handle that today? Wow. What a difference twenty-two years can make! ...

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The Conversation: The Night Our Journey Began Sometimes I think the most important moments in our lives don't announce themselves when they happen. There is no music playing in the background. No one tells you, Remember this night. This is where your life changes. Sometimes it is simply a Saturday night, a home-cooked dinner, two college students sitting across from each other, and a conversation that lasts until almost midnight. That was us. We had been dating for about four months in college. Four months doesn't sound like very long now, but at the time, I was completely smitten with him. And I do mean smitten. My first impressions of him were that he was quiet, serious, thoughtful and incredibly self-controlled. He wasn't the kind of guy who needed to be the center of attention. He didn't talk just to fill the silence. When he spoke, I tended to listen because I knew he had actually thought about what he was saying. There was something about that that drew me in. I a...