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How to Talk About Domestic Discipline With Your Partner

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  Having “The Conversation”: How to Talk About Domestic Discipline With Your Partner Article by Lisa This article has taken me over a year to write. Hundreds of edits.  Next Week I am posting Two Articles A Note to the Man Who Wants to Take Charge A Note to the Woman Who Wants to Follow His Lead Over the years I have been thinking about my sister. She has told me that she desires a domestic discipline relationship. The difficult part is that she got married without ever having that conversation with her husband, and he has no interest in it. I feel for her because I understand why bringing something like this up can feel incredibly vulnerable. It is one thing to have thoughts or desires that you keep privately to yourself. It is something entirely different to look at the person you love and say, “There is something I think might make our marriage better, and I am nervous to tell you about it.” And that is why I keep thinking about “ The Conversation .” If you are considering ...
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What If One of My Children Is Like Me?

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What If One of My Children Is Like Me? I am honestly a little scared as I write this. One of the reasons I have always been so protective of my children's privacy is because I know what the internet can be like. People can be wonderful, supportive, and kind—but people can also be cruel. They can take pieces of someone's life, misunderstand them, judge them, or use information in ways the person never intended. That is one reason I have always been very careful about what I put online. And there is another reason. We try to protect the children from the domestic discipline side of our marriage. Hubby and I have intentionally kept that part of our relationship between us. I don't want our children growing up feeling that this is something they are supposed to do because Mom and Dad do it. I don't want to influence their ideas about what their own marriages should look like. There was one night, though, when that privacy was accidentally broken. Our son was about thirteen,...
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When I Want Him to Notice Something Is Wrong

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  When I Want Him to Notice Something Is Wrong But Don't Know How to Say It I wrote this article and reading it I would like to apologize to hubby for the way my brain sometimes works. As I read it… it sounded a bit crazy, There are times when something is wrong with me, and I don’t really know how to say it. I’m stressed. I’m exhausted. I’m frustrated. I’m overwhelmed. Sometimes I’m emotional for reasons I can’t completely explain. Sometimes I’m carrying something around in my head that I haven’t figured out how to put into words yet. And I’ll admit something that probably isn’t entirely fair to my husband: Sometimes I want him to just notice. I want him to look at me and somehow know. I want him to notice that my smile isn’t quite the same, that I’m quieter than usual, or that I’ve been carrying too much. I want him to ask the right question and somehow know what kind of answer I need. The funny thing is, Hubby is actually pretty good at this. He knows me well. After all these ye...
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