Lisa Spanking Blog

Back to School I just wanted to let everyone know that going back to school is taking up a lot of my time right now. Between getting ready for the new school year, being back in the classroom, and keeping up with everything at home, my days are becoming very full. I love answering your questions, reading your comments, and interacting with all of you, and I will still do my best to respond as quickly as I can. Please just be patient with me if it takes a little longer than usual. Sometimes I may be able to answer during the week, but other times your question may have to wait until the weekend when I have a little more time to sit down and give it the attention it deserves. I haven't forgotten about anyone, and I truly appreciate everyone who takes the time to write to me. Thank you for your patience and for continuing to be part of this little community. School may be taking up more of my time, but I'm still here.

  The Anatomy of a Maintenance Spanking There's a difference between a spanking given for something I did and a spanking given for nothing in particular — and after twenty years of this life, I still find that difference is where most people get confused when they first hear about maintenance discipline. So I want to walk through what one actually looks like, from the inside, both physically and emotionally. What "Maintenance" Even Means A maintenance spanking isn't a punishment . There's no infraction being addressed, no specific failure being corrected. It's scheduled, or semi-scheduled, and its purpose is preventative — it exists to keep the dynamic itself in good repair, the way you'd service a car before it breaks down rather than after. In our marriage, maintenance has always served a different function than corrective discipline. Corrective spankings are about accountability for something specific. Maintenance is about the relationship's shape ...

Thank you Linda for telling me about this video by this guy Caleb. He has a YouTube channel talking about domestic discipline. I think I agree with him 100%. I am lucky to have a husband who is very much perfect for me. And my prayer is after you listen to this... that you look at your own relationship and evaluate your life to it.  After listening to this. Please give me your thoughts I have included transcript below so you can follow along.  If you like his message as much as I do, please considering subscribing to his YouTube page at this link https://www.youtube.com/@thapinkside   Transcript -  0:00:00 Hey guys, it's Caleb and I know it's been a long time. So, I'm going to explain some things to you guys here and um 0:1010 seconds hopefully you'll understand where I'm coming from and why I haven't been on in two or three months. 0:1616 seconds I'm going to get back on to regular posting in late July, early August, somewhere in there probably, or mid 0:22...

  Being the Head of the House Isn't Easy Either I wrote this about a month ago and I am going to let it post this Sunday. I scheduled it and now I think it is more important than ever. When people think about a domestic discipline marriage, they often focus on the wife. They think about submission, accountability, rules, consequences, and yes... spankings. Since I write from my perspective, that's naturally what you read about most often. But today I want to talk about someone who doesn't always get enough credit. My husband. Being the head of our household isn't as easy as some people imagine. I think sometimes people assume that because he has the authority, everything is simple for him. He makes a decision, I obey, and life moves on. If only it were that easy. Leadership comes with responsibility. When I make a poor decision, it doesn't just affect me. He has to decide whether it needs correcting. He has to consider my heart, my intentions, the circumstances, and...

Update: What happened Wednesday  As a lot of you know, for a long time, I have kept a secret from my husband. I have been writing this blog—and my other blogs—without him knowing about them. I knew it was wrong to keep something this important from the man I promised to love, honor, and respect. I also knew that eventually I would have to tell him the truth. Many of you encouraged me to come clean. Some of you gently reminded me that secrets have a way of hurting the very relationships we are trying to protect. Others encouraged me to trust my husband and believe that honesty was the right thing to do. I want to thank every one of you who supported me, encouraged me, and prayed for me as I wrestled with this decision. Well, on Monday, I finally came clean. I wrote my husband a letter explaining everything, and then I sat down and read it to him. He listened. He didn't interrupt me. He didn't speak. He never broke eye contact with me. That silence was incredibly hard to take. Wh...

A Quick Note: The Blogs Are Safe I just wanted to give everyone a quick update because I know some of you have been worried about me and about what is going to happen to my blogs. The blogs are safe. My bottom is pale for now, too. Hubby told me that he needs some time to process everything he just learned. He needs time to think, to sort through his feelings, and to decide what is going to happen next. I understand that, and I want to give him the time and space he needs. I still feel horrible about everything. I have so many emotions swirling around inside me, and I know I have a lot of work to do to make things right. But through all of this, one thing keeps coming back to me: I have the most amazing husband. Even when I disappoint him, even when I make mistakes, and even when things are difficult, I know how much he loves me and how much he cares about our marriage. I will write up everything that happened and share more with you all when I am ready. There is one thing he said that...

  It's Time to Tell Him There is a conversation coming up that I have been putting off for a very long time. I am writing this before I do it because of two things.  I want you to know before this blog gets shut down if that is what he wants.  It also forces my hand to tell him. So I do not chicken out.  I have decided that I need to tell my husband about my blogs. If you've followed me for any length of time, you know that I have always tried to honor my husband. I've also admitted that my blogs have been the one secret I've kept from him. I have struggled with that for a long time. I justified it by telling myself that I needed an outlet. I needed to write. I needed to connect with others who understood this lifestyle. But a recent event made me realize that my secret isn't affecting only me anymore. A few days ago, I made a mistake. I forgot to tag one of my blog posts with a warning that it contained sexual content. One of my readers read it before realizing wha...