Lisa Spanking Blog

 Love and Respect Journey  When my husband first suggested that we go through the Love & Respect study together, I honestly thought it would simply confirm what I already believed about marriage. I figured we would read a few chapters, nod along, maybe discuss a few ideas, and move on. I thought I already understood what respect meant. I was wrong. Walking through Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs together turned out to be one of the most life-changing things we have done for our marriage, especially within the framework of our Domestic Discipline relationship. It helped me see things in ways I had never really considered before. Before the study, I believed I was respectful. I didn’t yell. I wasn’t openly critical. I supported my husband in many ways. But what I learned is that respect is not only about the obvious things. Sometimes it’s the subtle actions that speak the loudest. A sigh. A tone. An eye roll. Correcting him in front of the kids. Questioning a decisio...

A Really Good Friday There’s something almost sacred about stolen time in a busy house. As a mom, those moments don’t come around often anymore—especially with two high school daughters whose schedules seem just as full as ours. But this Friday felt different from the start. I had the day off from teaching, and hubby had taken Good Friday off too. That alone felt like a gift—both of us home, no rushing, no alarms, no obligations pulling us in different directions. So when the opportunity presented itself, we leaned all the way in. At noon, with a little bit of planning (and yes, a little bit of bribery), we handed the girls some cash and sent them off to grab lunch and do a bit of shopping for us. They were thrilled—freedom and spending money will do that—and just like that, the house went quiet. Two whole hours. It felt like a reset button. We didn’t rush into anything. We started the way we always should, but don’t always get to—just sitting together, talking. Really talking. Laughin...

  Why do I get lazy? This week (actually it happened 20 March) is not one I am especially proud of, but it is one I need to be honest about. Sometimes the weeks where I struggle the most are the ones that teach me the most, and this one showed me that laziness and a small lie can turn into something much bigger if I let my guard down. I had the whole week off, which should have been a blessing. I had time to catch up on things around the house, rest a little, and take care of the small errands that normally pile up when life is busy. Instead, I let myself get comfortable. Too comfortable. I slept in, watched more TV than I should have, and kept telling myself I would get things done later. Later kept turning into tomorrow, and tomorrow turned into the end of the week. On Friday, hubby texted me while he was at work and asked if I could pick up his medicine from the pharmacy. I saw the text. I remember looking at my phone, thinking I should go, and then telling myself I would do it ...

  Advice Corner Living Out a Domestic Discipline Marriage in Real Life I’ve had several women write to me lately asking how a Domestic Discipline relationship actually works in day-to-day life. It’s easy to talk about rules, structure, and respect in theory, but real life includes jobs, kids, exhaustion, laundry, bills, and everything else that pulls at our time and energy. So I wanted to write this post as an advice column of sorts, sharing what I’ve learned and also asking for wisdom from others who are walking this path. I’m going to break this into five areas that seem to come up the most often. 1. Serving Him and Serving the Family One of the biggest misunderstandings I hear is that serving your husband means you stop being a person yourself. For me, it’s the opposite. Serving him is part of serving the whole family. When I respect his leadership, our home runs smoother, the kids feel more secure, and I feel more at peace. That doesn’t mean I do everything perfectly. Some days...

  On my other blog I write of the first time I got spanked after being married. The story does contain a slight description of what I was feeling losing my virginity but no description of the act itself. If you would like to read it I will include a link below. Wedding Memories and Regret 

Finding the Courage to Start My Own Discipline Blog For a long time, I read posts on a Blog called, “Spank Your Wife” here quietly, never thinking I would have the courage to write one myself. I would scroll through story after story, advice after advice, and feel like these articles were speaking to my soul and putting into words things I had only felt in my heart. This website became a place where I didn’t feel strange, wrong, or alone. Instead, I felt understood. Starting my own discipline blog post honestly scared me. Hitting that “submit” button felt bigger than it probably should have. I worried about what people would think, if I sounded silly, or if my experiences even mattered. But the truth is, the courage to write came from being here, reading what Aron wrote, and realizing that every story shared helps someone else feel less alone. Our relationship, our rules, our struggles, and our victories are part of our life, and life is worth writing about. Discipline in marriage isn’...