Can anyone Tell?
After a Private Moment of Correction
There’s always a certain quiet that follows a private moment of correction between my husband and me. It’s not just the silence in the room, but the emotional stillness that lingers afterward. When we step back into the world—out to dinner, church, or the grocery store—I often carry that sense of humility and tenderness with me. It’s not visible to anyone else, but I can feel it with every careful movement, every reminder of the closeness we shared.
Sometimes I catch myself being overly aware of my own body language. When I sit down, I do so gently, easing into the seat without drawing attention, but inside my thoughts race. Can anyone tell? Of course they can’t—but my mind plays tricks, making me think the whole world can see the private lesson written across my expression.
There’s a curious mix of embarrassment and pride that comes with that feeling. Embarrassment, because I imagine others might somehow sense my discomfort. Pride, because I know what it represents—a marriage built on trust, love, and accountability. It reminds me that we take our promises seriously, that my husband loves me enough to guide me firmly when needed, and I love him enough to accept that guidance.
When I walk or sit, I move more carefully. Sometimes I’ll notice someone glance my way, and I immediately wonder if they can read the story behind my posture. They can’t, of course. But that thought makes me even more aware of the quiet power of our private bond—how something so personal can make me feel simultaneously vulnerable and grounded.
If I’m wearing shorts or a dress, the thought might cross my mind again—what if a faint mark is visible? I’ll tug the hem just a little lower, not out of shame, but out of respect for the intimacy of our relationship. What happens between husband and wife belongs there, protected from the eyes of the world.
As the day goes on, that self-consciousness fades. I find myself laughing, moving more freely, forgetting the worry that once seemed so large. It becomes just another reminder of the balance we strive for—strength and gentleness, authority and trust, correction and love.
By the time we return home, I’m no longer thinking about whether anyone noticed. Instead, I’m thankful. Thankful for a husband who leads with care, for a marriage that values honesty, and for the kind of love that leaves me humbled yet deeply secure.
You have such a perfect mentality for this lifestyle. It’s beautiful.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I have been blessed. If you could know how much he has saved my life in so many ways.
DeleteIt sounds like you walk on eggshells, that you can’t be comfortable in who you are and who God created you to be.. God chastises His Bribe which is both man and woman. God holds husbands to a higher standard just like he does a minister or a pastor of a church.
ReplyDeleteGod commands the husband to not be harsh to his wife or another translation is bitter toward his wife. When he goes and spanks his wife there should be no marks on her skin at all or he has abused and beaten her. We are both so supposed to submit to each other according to the word of God.
Yes I agree with what you say 100%. Realize that this is how we choose to have a relationship. I need accountability to thrive, he doesn't. It helps me be a better woman, wife, mom, lover, Christian, person, and friend. This sort of relationship is not what everybody needs, It is something I need.
DeleteLisa, this is just so beautiful! I am so grateful that you chose to share this private moment of reflection with us. You’ve captured the quiet intimacy of a spanking marriage in a way I’ve never heard expressed. A recently humbled wife is gentle with herself and her man, peaceful and secure in the shadow of his strength. Her tender bottom is a secret they share, drawing them closer together, serving as a sign of the strength of their marriage. We know, of course, that a wife is spanked for her transgressions, but it is so powerful that you chose not to focus on this. Instead, you focused on the pride you felt to be in a marriage that values honesty and accountability. Pride that he loved you enough to correct you, but also that you loved him enough to accept correction. That requires real trust and humility. As a disciplined wife myself, you’ve captured the whirl of post-spanking emotions so beautifully. It’s hard to explain how something that sounds negative can bring so much good into a marriage. Thank you again for sharing with us this glimpse into your very private life.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for these thoughtful and generous words. I’m truly touched by how deeply you understood what I was trying to express in that post. Writing it felt very vulnerable, and knowing it resonated with another wife who lives this dynamic with sincerity and faith means more than I can say.
DeleteYou described the quiet side of a spanking marriage so beautifully—the gentleness, the security, the way humility softens rather than diminishes us. That “after” space is something I don’t think can be understood unless you’ve lived it: the peace, the closeness, the unspoken knowing that something important has been tended to together. I love how you phrased it as a secret that draws a couple closer. That feels very true to my experience.
You’re also right that I intentionally chose not to focus on the transgression itself. For me, the deeper story is always about trust—being loved enough to be corrected, and loving enough to receive it. That exchange requires vulnerability on both sides, and when it’s done with care, it strengthens a marriage in ways that are hard to explain to the outside world.
Thank you for sharing a bit of your own heart as well. It comforts me to know that other wives experience that same swirl of emotions and recognize the goodness that can come from something so often misunderstood. I’m grateful you took the time to write, and I’m honored that this reflection spoke to you.
Thank you for taking the time to reply to me, Lisa! I’m just so impressed by your grace and humility. Your honest accounts here are a treasure that I look forward to unpacking slowly, savoring them like wise advice from a close friend.
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Sophia, your words truly touched my heart—thank you. I’m so humbled that anything I share here could feel like a gift to someone else. This space has always been about honesty and growth for me, and knowing that it resonates with you in such a thoughtful way is deeply encouraging. I love the image of unpacking things slowly; so much of this journey is meant to be savored and reflected on, not rushed. I’m grateful to be walking alongside you, even in this small way.
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