Finding the Courage to Start My Own Discipline Blog
Finding the Courage to Start My Own Discipline Blog
For a long time, I read posts on a Blog called, “Spank Your Wife” here quietly, never thinking I would have the courage to write one myself. I would scroll through story after story, advice after advice, and feel like these articles were speaking to my soul and putting into words things I had only felt in my heart. This website became a place where I didn’t feel strange, wrong, or alone. Instead, I felt understood.
Starting my own discipline blog post honestly scared me. Hitting that “submit” button felt bigger than it probably should have. I worried about what people would think, if I sounded silly, or if my experiences even mattered. But the truth is, the courage to write came from being here, reading what Aron wrote, and realizing that every story shared helps someone else feel less alone.
Our relationship, our rules, our struggles, and our victories are part of our life, and life is worth writing about. Discipline in marriage isn’t something most people talk about openly, and that makes it even more important for those of us living it to share honestly and respectfully.
This blog started because of the courage I found on this website “https://www.spankingyourwife.com/” , and because I realized that if his articles helped me, maybe mine can help someone else too.
Aronhusband just wrote a blog post called “Starting Your Discipline Blog” . I would recommend reading it and all the articles here.
Thanks Lisa
How lucky for us that you chose to start this blog! I adore reading your words, Lisa. I also read Aron's blog. My husband has some....differences of opinions to Aron but he knows I read all of Aron's posts but we will often talk about them together. I feel your blog is a softer and safer space for my type of relationship. I also used to read a blog called Guided Wife written by a woman named Valerie. She blogged for a couple of years -maybe 2019-2021 or so and I loved her writing. Eventually her and her husband left the DD lifestyle, but did stay married. It was interesting to read and I was sorry when she stopped posting. Your writing does remind me of hers.
ReplyDeleteYes I like Aron's blog. I think men and women would think differently. I bet if the same accounts were written by my husband if it would be more gruff. In the love and respect course that hubby and I went to... it would be said that I write in Pink and he would write in Blue.
DeleteI am now going to look up the Guided Wife. I am excited to read something new.
Lisa, we are so very blessed that you did find the courage to write about this unique way of life here! Like you, I have read Aron’s blog for years, enthusiastically devouring every post, gradually learning through him to shed my shame for wanting discipline from a man. He also counseled me privately when I reached out to him as a very confused young woman, helping me to see that discipline is not a shameful kink, but an integral part of holy marriage. I credit him for opening my eyes to the quiet strength of the man who would become my husband. I saw through Aron that a man could be a kind and loving husband, a true Christian, and a respected member of his community, yet still deliver to his wife the harsh punishment she needs without hesitation. And he didn’t need to wear leather and chains to do this. Slowly, I began to feel like a truly feminine, authentic, godly woman whose desire to submit to her future husband would be cherished by the right man. No longer ashamed, and having turned away from impure influences, Aron helped me to see that my needs could be fully met in Christian marriage. Then this wonderful man who had known me from church for years, whose attention I hadn’t previously cared about, saw positive changes in me that set me apart from other girls he’d known, just when I began to think a righteous man could also be capable of spanking his wife (like Aron). Together, we explored a more traditional courtship, leaning more and more into headship and submission, and now he is my husband! In claiming me as his wife, he has taken over as my advisor, spiritual counselor, and the supreme authority in my life.
ReplyDeleteBut Aron writes his blog primarily to advise other men, and while I try to use his words to help me reflect on how a wife should behave towards her man, it has been immensely helpful and comforting to me to hear from other women like you, Lisa. You share so beautifully and tenderly the conflicting feelings in a disciplined wife’s heart, and I am so thankful that you chose to share your life with us. I enjoy writing and have kept a private journal since my teenage years, but with young children, I could never devote the time to run a blog well. Perhaps that will change when they are grown. In the meantime, I am thankful to be a part of your community here.
Blessings to you,
Sophia
Sophia,
DeleteYour journaling is a wonderful outlet, and who knows—maybe one day your voice will reach others in the same way. Save those writings and then make them into a blog. That is really what started it all with me.
But even now, your presence and your willingness to share here already adds so much to this community.
Thank you again for your kindness, your faith, and your courage to speak.
God bless you and your family,
Lisa